Did You Hear? Listening Pays Off

by Lisa on June 18, 2012

The following post is from Lisa of Working Naked:

source: ky_olsen

I come from a big, loud family, and the word “quiet” isn’t in our vocabulary. We don’t believe in long pauses either. So when I jumped into the business world I figured out quickly that if I wanted to succeed in sales and grow my business, I’d have to learn to be quiet.

These four tips can help you make sure you don’t miss what your clients are saying.

Know when to stop talking.

When you’re selling, it’s natural to go on and on about why someone should buy your product or service, or to try to impress a prospect with everything you know about your product or industry. A prospect may start out interested in your sales pitch, but if you do all of the talking, don’t be surprised if they shut down as their eyes glaze over.

Don’t miss important points.

Listen twice as much as you talk, and fight the urge to bring up another point when a client is talking. Otherwise you may miss a key point and risk losing the rapport you’ve built with that person. If you’re on the phone, take notes that you can refer to later.

Pause, pause, pause.

A good friend of mine is an investigative reporter and a master at asking questions, pausing, and waiting for the person she’s interviewing to answer. She’s also good at making her interview subjects sweat. When you ask a prospect or client a question, do the same thing without making them sweat. After they respond, wait another few seconds to see if they have anything else to say.

Ask questions.

Start the conversation with a question, and then wait patiently for the answer. Don’t be surprised if you uncover valuable information. Your clients will appreciate your interest in them and they should be more likely to use your services or buy your products.

Listening takes time and patience, but it’s a skill that pays off in the long run. You never know what you’ll learn when you take the time to listen.

How have you improved the way you listen to clients?

Home office expert Lisa Kanarek is the founder of WorkingNaked.com and the author of five books about working from home, including Organize Your Home Office For Success. Lisa works with entrepreneurs and home-based employees through seminars and individual consultations, to create functional home offices that meet each individual’s working style.

  • Philip Griffith

    It is so true that kids sometimes complaine about having their picture taken, but then are the first to want to look at those photos.  Both my boys get their albums and lifebooks out and look at them.  They will even show them to friends and exclaim, “My dad made this for me!”  It is amazing how the simplest photo album can have the most profound impact on your child.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      That’s awesome, Philip — what a great way to really show them that you
      treasure them!

  • Holly

    My mom did a lot of things to make us feel loved–she threw special birthday parties, decorated our rooms, sewed us comfy bathrobes, took us on beach vacations.  I remember some of those things more vividly because she did snap photos along the way.  She didn’t make albums, but since I’m into photos now I can have a good time going back through those old photos and making a book for my parents.  Dad’s 80th is coming up. Hope he’s not reading this or he’ll know what he’s getting!

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      How fun — I bet your dad will love it!

  • http://twitter.com/yourphotoorg Your PhotoOrganizers

    I am often surprised that my kids complain about having my ‘mamma-razzi’ efforts when it comes to taking their picture. They moan and complain, and give me a lot of grief about it….. But the memory of their ‘harassment’ fades quickly when I see how much they enjoy the stories I tell in our albums with those photos. As much as they complain, I know they appreciate it now – and will in the future when they show their children what their mom did for them…
    Thanks for the great reminder about our ‘storytelling’ efforts.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      Isn’t it funny how their eyes and ears perk up when we tell stories about
      their childhoods?! My girls are still little, but they *love* to hear about
      when they were babies and look through photos of when I was pregnant or when
      they were newborns.

  • http://www.se7en.org.za Se7en

    Wow… you just solved my annual Christmas dilemma for something the same but different and make-able for each of my kids that they will all love – what a fabulous idea!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Debbie-Willis-Blair/1187244565 Debbie Willis Blair

    I echo those thoughts and statements.  I too am a mama-razzi and my kids are always saying that I am annoying and begging “no more pictures!”, but they are always happy to look back at all the pictures and remember the good times, the fun times and the everyday moments.  I made an album for my son and gave it to him for his 14th birtday.  It was an Album of Hope… My hopes and dreams for him as he goes through high school next year and grows into a young adult.  He LOVED the book, and he brought it to school to show his friends!  I was amazed that a “cool” 8th grader would bring an album to school, but that just told me how much the album meant to him!  

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      I love that, Debbie — what a special gift that I’m sure he’ll remember for
      a long time!

  • http://www.farfromflawlesslife.blogspot.com Missy June

    I do a “Birthday Book” each year for each of my three little ones.  My goodness they adore it…and the 3 year old constantly wants to know why he doesn’t have as many as his 7 year old brother.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      To cute! My mom makes one for each of my girls of their first year of life,
      and she’s working on another from our trip to Disney last year – they really
      do love looking through them!

  • http://www.farfromflawlesslife.blogspot.com Missy June

    I do a “Birthday Book” each year for each of my three little ones.  My goodness they adore it…and the 3 year old constantly wants to know why he doesn’t have as many as his 7 year old brother.

  • http://www.adjuvancy.com/wordpress Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A.

    How can you help provide a solution to your customer’s needs or wants if you are too busy to find out what it is they need or want? Great stuff, Lisa

  • Lisa Marie

    This is awesome, especially in today’s world where some feel all of the silence needs filled. So many are hungry to be heard and really listened to, so this is very needed. Thanks for the reminders :)

  • Ann

    I have just learned about people who pause for long times in the middle of what they are saying and that they expect me to know that it is not my turn to speak yet. I consider this a communications disconnect and that I have to learn when it is my turn. Also telephones have become so cheap that when one person is talking another can be trying to get attention and not be heard (until I take a breath). Thanks for sharing this. I know I have to be more patient.

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