Simplify Your Life by Defining Your Priorities

by Mandi on March 21, 2011

Simplify Your Priorities...

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This week we’re talking about simplifying family life. Tune in all week for strategies and tips for every area of life, and if you’re looking for more in-depth resources, be sure to check out the Huge Simplify Family Life eBook Sale!

One of the dangers of reading blogs is that you can feel weighed down by all of the great ideas that other people share. Blogger A makes all of her food from scratch, and Blogger B sews all of her family’s clothes. Blogger C only spends $40 a week on groceries while Blogger D has a beautiful and spotless home. Blogger E homeschools her children and creates elaborate lesson plans for them, and Blogger F helps raise money and awareness for a wonderful charity.

Chances are that none of them are doing all of those things, but as we read about the things other people are doing, we can become burdened by the idea that somehow we should be doing all of them, and a dozen other things too.

However, that’s obviously not realistic, and like my post earlier today about simplifying your schedule, it’s important to remember that sometimes we have to forgo good things to make room for the best.

So how do you decide which are the best?

The best place to start is by defining your priorities as a family.

Although we’ve never sat down and written out a formal mission statement for our family, I love the questions that Tsh at Simple Mom asks to help you craft your family mission statement. Having a written mission statement isn’t necessary, but the discipline of thinking through it and writing it down will definitely make it more concrete. Either way, understanding your goals and purpose as a family is a great place to start in identifying your priorities.

One thing we all have a tendency to do is describe our priorities a certain way that sounds good, even if our life doesn’t reflect these priorities. If serving other people is truly a priority for your family, then the decisions you make about watching TV, doing extracurricular activities, etc. will reflect this as you make time for volunteering. If eating healthy or having a small impact on the earth is your priority, than your decisions about what you buy or how much time you spend preparing meals should reflect those as well.

If you find that you have trouble acting on your stated priorities, it’s time to either reevaluate your priorities and choose more reaslistic, less lofty ones or reevaluate your schedule and other decisions to make sure you have the time and resources to pursue those things.

Once you’ve defined your true priorities, making decisions on a daily basis will be easier within that framework, which simplifies your decision process as a family.

What are your priorities as a family? Does the way you spend your time and money reflect these? Do you have a family mission statement?


  • Anonymous

    This is such a big deal Mandi. It is so important that we *know* what is important to us, so that when opportunities come along, we can more easily make decisions when you line it up against our priorities.
    And I love what you said at the beginning about trying to *do* what everyone else is doing! Pick what is right for your family. Use the ideas you see, but ultimately you choose, and don’t feel guilty!
    Bernice
    The Struggle with the Juggle-WAHMs

  • Angel

    I read A LOT of blogs! I am always having to tell myself exactly what you said in your first paragraph. When you read many varied blogs I do tend to think they are all “doing it all”. It’s a great reminder. Thanks. :)

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      I know exactly what you mean because I have to remind myself of that often
      as well!

  • Lori K

    So, so true… I’ve been thinking about this exact thing for some time now, I read too many blogs that are focused and wonderful at a couple things, but add that up and all the sudden I feel like I have to be great at everything!!! NOT SO! :) Thanks for the “permission” to not have to do it all!

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      You’re welcome! Thanks for commenting!

  • Catherine

    I was just thinking about this today. I, too, suffer from reading about way too many people and think I have to do it all. If there is a musical family, well, I should be exposing my children to that, if there is an incredibly academic family, well, how can I not want to do that for my kids too? It has become a bit overwhelming to say the least. So far I am trying to be an academic/artsy/crafting/cooking from scratch/musical/camping/world travelling/bilingual/gardening/volunteering/homeschooling perfect family. Sheesh, enough already! This is just what I needed to hear.

    • http://yourway.net Mandi @ Life Your Way

      Hehe, I can’t imagine why you’d be overwhelmed by trying to achieve all of
      that!

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